We all know importance of friendship in our lives.Every child finds it a bit troubling to make new friends.Child obsessed with friends. I have no friends.Friendships are an important aspect of your child’s social life. Strong friendships that last long are a key to make your child happy, healthy, secure and more engaged in society. Friends help them to bear their hard times with ease and make their fun times more enjoyable. There are many ways to be social. Your child does not have to be surrounded by friends always or does not have to be the life of the party type of person. He needs not to have a dozen friends to be happy. But what really important is that does your child feel satisfied and supported in his social circle or not.Parents are really struggling in searching answer for the question “how to help my child make friends at school ?”
Help Your Children to Make Life Long
We all have friendship challenges in our lives. But this does not mean that something is wrong with us or that we are misfit. The same goes for children. These are the problems that be overcome easily. Teach your child to take another person’s perspective. When they learn to look at a point for different perspectives, this helps them to be more empathetic and understanding. This helps their ability to resolve conflicts. Following are some ways in which you can make your child have lifelong friendships by helping them to overcome their shyness and fears.
- The first struggle a child bears is to initiate a friendship. Sometimes their shyness prevents them from taking the first step. They will often be reluctant to make eye contacts or express them loudly to a potential friend. This gives the other person the impression that you are unsocial and unfriendly. But this can be easily corrected. First let your child observe how other people greet each other. Set an example yourself. This will help them to learn how common interactions are done. Shy kids do not want to draw much attention to themselves. Tell them that they are making everyone attentive to them by not saying ‘hello’. Make your child rehearse by looking at the forehead and talk. Set goals and start by having your child talk to someone who is easier to greet. The start will feel awkward but things will get easier and better with practice and patience.
- Persistence is another issue. Your child will hesitate to make another move when his first attempt was a mistake. Tel your child that we all make social blunders and it is nothing to be ashamed of. As long as you correct yourself and do not make the same mistake repeatedly, you are fine. If your child made a move and was unable to get the desired response, then tell him to pick the stop signal. Respect other people’s comfort and boundaries. But do not get dis-hearted, if there are some people who dislike you, there will be many more who love you and welcome your initiatives. Teach your child to be kind to everyone always because kindness goes a long way and stays in people’s hearts.
- Children often find themselves difficult to blend in a group. There can be two ways in which a kid can approach a group. Either he will hold back and never muster up the courage to join the group or he will get in the game and steal the ball and make everyone run behind him following his rules. Studies suggest that if a child first observes the game and then slides without disturbing the game will be more likely to join the group later. Playground strategies are sometimes different. It is often times the parents who push their children to go and join the other children in the game. But children become successful in joining the group when they do not draw much attention to themselves. When they do not try to make everyone follow their rules. When they respect the players and the pattern of the group, they are more welcomed. Kids must be taught to face rejection as well. Tell them that it is quite common to be rejected the first time. Teach them to just shrug it off, be cheerful and move on.
- Teach your child to stand up for himself in a healthy way. His lack of assertiveness can lead him to being resentful. And if they are too bossy and hostile, they may start a conflict. Tell them to negotiate their matters. Talk about what is bothering them with the other person. Find a way out. Always be flexible in responses to every situation.
- Always be open to forgiveness and understand that friends can make mistakes too. Be able to let go. Do not hold on to bitterness and keep remembering all the bad incidences, rather accept that nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes.
- Research shows encouragement increases the confidence and success rate in any action. Use this tool often